So you think you’re having a tough time on Valentine’s Day? What would you do if you had to look for the perfect gift for, not just one, but three lovers? What if you have the need to plan a weekend sex-a-thon for six? For the obvious reasons they have superpowers, we asked a few polyamorous individuals for City Sex rules on what to do to please multiple partners.
Love is a battlefield; prepare like you are going to war
Have you ever tried to get for people together for a night of board games? Now you can imagine how difficult it is to coordinate with everyone for a trip to Europe. Your plans may not be as complex as theirs, but not planning all the details could lead to couple disasters.
The City Sex Rule: Would you go out on a date without having protection? The same principle applies: Plan the night ahead of time or you’ll end up going home getting zilch.
Internet dating
Since teleportation hasn’t been perfected yet, there is a way for couples in long-distance relationships to see each other on Valentine’s Day. You see, a webcam is an awesome invention. It can be used to spend a virtual “hot and steamy” time privately with your partner. However, this needs some getting used to. It can be really funny at first, as you try to position the camera just to get yourself into the right frame for some “action” flowing.
The City Sex Rule: Absence makes the heart grow fonder? Screw that. Utilize modern technology to communicate with each other even if your worlds apart.
A Threesome (or more) can be a better time
There are some who are not into the V Day spirit. Their attitude toward holidays—Valentine’s Day included—is now “the more the merrier.” Jenny Block, author of “Open: Love, Sex and Life in an Open Marriage,” is one of them. Her holiday is spent with brunch that includes her husband, their daughter and girlfriend.
The City Sex Rule: If you are the anti-Valentine’s Day type, don’t disregard the holiday. Instead, turn it into a party. You can even earn Karma points by inviting your single friends.
Give some lip service
So, what do you think is more important to your relationship than a steamy night between the sheets? Honest communication, you say? You are definitely right. It always pays to be up front and do prodding. If you feel afraid of your partner’s reaction to any of your Valentine’s Day situations, think about this: These people in multiple relationships had the balls to tell others that they want an open relationship.
The City Sex Rule: The spirit of Valentine’s Day is all about love, sharing and… a well-played defense.
Love is a battlefield; prepare like you are going to war
Have you ever tried to get for people together for a night of board games? Now you can imagine how difficult it is to coordinate with everyone for a trip to Europe. Your plans may not be as complex as theirs, but not planning all the details could lead to couple disasters.
The City Sex Rule: Would you go out on a date without having protection? The same principle applies: Plan the night ahead of time or you’ll end up going home getting zilch.
Internet dating
Since teleportation hasn’t been perfected yet, there is a way for couples in long-distance relationships to see each other on Valentine’s Day. You see, a webcam is an awesome invention. It can be used to spend a virtual “hot and steamy” time privately with your partner. However, this needs some getting used to. It can be really funny at first, as you try to position the camera just to get yourself into the right frame for some “action” flowing.
The City Sex Rule: Absence makes the heart grow fonder? Screw that. Utilize modern technology to communicate with each other even if your worlds apart.
A Threesome (or more) can be a better time
There are some who are not into the V Day spirit. Their attitude toward holidays—Valentine’s Day included—is now “the more the merrier.” Jenny Block, author of “Open: Love, Sex and Life in an Open Marriage,” is one of them. Her holiday is spent with brunch that includes her husband, their daughter and girlfriend.
The City Sex Rule: If you are the anti-Valentine’s Day type, don’t disregard the holiday. Instead, turn it into a party. You can even earn Karma points by inviting your single friends.
Give some lip service
So, what do you think is more important to your relationship than a steamy night between the sheets? Honest communication, you say? You are definitely right. It always pays to be up front and do prodding. If you feel afraid of your partner’s reaction to any of your Valentine’s Day situations, think about this: These people in multiple relationships had the balls to tell others that they want an open relationship.
The City Sex Rule: The spirit of Valentine’s Day is all about love, sharing and… a well-played defense.
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