Some couples can have pretty nasty arguments in the span of their adult dating relationships. These arguments can even get worse and we’re talking about brutal name calling and throwing around each other’s stuff. Clearly, this kind of explosive behavior needs some cool-down tips. And even if you and your adult dating partner don’t fight quite that intensely, it’s never a bad idea to have a few tricks up your sleeve for taking a blow-out down a notch.

•  Take a 30-minute pause. Separate and do other things for half an hour. According to studies, it takes that much time to completely calm down. Once you’re both more relaxed and chill, you can resume the conversation. This way, you’ll be able to state your points more clearly.

•  Let your guy know you hear him out by telling him that his argument is valid, but you feel differently about it. What often happens is fights escalate because the one person gives the impression that the other is not listening.

•  To effectively diminish a heated argument, try saying something light and funny. Make an amusing comment on something happening in the moment, or refer to something in the past that made you both laugh it will help break the tension in the air and make you both relax and start over.

•  Position your shoulders and knees facing your man to show that you’re invested in him, even if you’re furious.  The wrong body language can worsen an already escalating argument arms crossed, foot tapping, or eyes rolling can make your man feel you don’t care.

 For the most part, guys are really trustworthy, but there are some bad seeds that can be so obvious, they might as well have “Shady” inked across their foreheads in black with size 100 font. It never really hurt to compare notes on dudes who are trouble when you try to hookup, so we’ve listed down a few from women who know how to see the sings.

•  When he winks more than he smiles.

•  Taking his cell phone every time he goes to the bathroom.

•  Hits the strip club for lunch.

•  Tells you all of his exes are “psychos.”

•  Wears socks with sandals.

•  Gets phone calls at ungodly hours except if he’s a doctor.

•  Is not into pizza or beer.

•  Owns more hair products than you.

•  ”I’m not ready for something serious” is code for, “I’m using you to just to hookup and have sex.”

•  Both his email inbox and outbox don’t contain any messages.

•  Doesn’t introduce you to both his friends and family.

•  Doesn’t go into details on what happened to his day.

•  Doesn’t take you out in public.

Men aren’t known to initiate conversations in adult dating relationships, which is the reason why when they do decide to end it, it’s as if a bomb went off out of nowhere. But according to experts, guys give away clues when they’re not into it anymore.

•  Loading on too much work

When an adult dating relationship seems to be heading south, guys are inclined to take on more workload to compensate; it’s an ego booster since he’s upset that things with you are not doing good. And if he needs space, the workplace is where you’re guaranteed not to be.

•  He stops inviting you to be with his friends

When you first hooked up, he wanted his boys to meet you and let them know how hot you are. But if he’s starting to think you’re not meant for each other, he’ll be having more nights out with his buddies without you so his friends will be there for support when the break up backlash hits.

•  He maintains neutral conversations

If you notice that you’ve been talking about non-intimate topics such as the news and the weather a lot more lately, then they’re a sign he may be distancing himself to weaken the bond with you, so he’ll make sure his feelings are clear and make it a cleaner break for him when he does the deed.

•  He boxes you out

Let’s say you’re watching a movie on the couch together, and his body is angled away from you. This is a sign that he doesn’t feel intimate at all. A guy who is really into you will have the intention to touch and engage in physical displays of affection when you’re hanging out, especially when alone. If he’s not, his body language rules over, essentially blocking you out to convey his distant feelings.

•  He stops texting you the silly stuff

Guys usually send text messages on impulse whatever it is they feel, when they feel it.  So when this stops, it means he doesn’t feel like sending you those nice little check-ins he did before to say goodnight or to let you know he’s been thinking about you.

•  Stops the PDA

He cuts off on kissing you and holding your hands in public, which are signs that he’s anticipating to be single soon. Whether he’ll be acting on it or not, it’s his subconscious demonstration to any potential interests in the area that you’re on rocky ground.

She finds out that her exes keep getting hitched to the girl they hookup right after her. Which poses the question: What is it about some women that screams “not wife material?”

I got a call from my ex just a week ago a guy I completely believed that one day I’d see him smiling at me in a tux from the other end of a church aisle. He’s been dating the girl he hooked up with since we called it quits a couple of years ago, so when the words that came out of his mouth were the ones that I secretly prayed I’d never hear, I was crushed: “Jane, I’m going to marry her.”

I instantly burst into tears. You see, this isn’t the only time I became the girlfriend before the girlfriend who eventually becomes the wife. Yes, you’re not going to believe this, but it has happened seven times. It feels like I’m just prepping guys to get married to somebody else.

I guess you could think of me as a husband fluffer you know that crew member in porn movies whose job is to get the actor, uh, ready for his scene? In my case, I put in tons of hard work, and then another girl steps in right before the money shot I mean, the wedding scene. Heh.

The details vary, but the fundamental scenario is the same: Boy and I hookup and fall in love; boy and I split; boy marries next girl that comes along. Take my first boyfriend after college. I was truly convinced he was The One, but when we were two years in, I realized I’ve never lived on my own as a single girl. So we took a little break, after which he started dating another chick… and now they’re engaged.

After him, there was this other guy. And like the first one, he was older, charming successful, and gorgeous. I was crazy in love with him. Then I thought, “With a guy like this, you have to play a little hard to get.” But I didn’t see the signs that should’ve told me he was playing more of a grown-up game: the new three-bedroom apartment, the doting on his sister’s baby. So he ditched me for a model, who is now his wife.

Given these horrific stories, I asked myself what I did I do to drive these men into the arms of other women? Did I spark a desire for them to find a wife? Or maybe they wanted out of the dating game for good?

I presented this question to my therapist. “You thought you wanted to tie the knot with these guys, right?” she asked. Correct. “So you made them work through all their issues to prop them for marriage.” Correct. “But were you ready?”

Excellent question. The concept of marriage probably scared the hell out of me, and the guys sensed it. “Keep in mind,” she continued, “a husband fluffer means you’re free to keep on looking to find the right person. You’ve been spared, and you have spared them too. You just weren’t right for them. Think of it as a gift you gave them.” Right now, I’m still waiting for all the thank you cards in the mail.

You most likely know by now that most men are primed to go as soon as they wake up. What may not be quite obvious to you is that your body is most likely also ready for adult sex during those hours too.

A recent study from Harvard University revealed that a female’s circadian rhythm is slightly different from a male’s: It is biologically designed to be energized in the morning, but totally beat upon going to bed at night. And by usually making adult sex a pre-sleep activity, you’re forced to go against your natural urge to relax at night.

So if what our body wants after our alarm clocks sound is adult sex, why isn’t everybody doing it? According to experts, women fight the desire to get into it because they don’t feel good about how they look or how their breath smells, they check their phones right away so they could respond to work-related emails, or they are most likely in a rush that they know there’s not enough time to enjoy a nice round of booty.

Fortunately, we’ve gathered a few tricks that will surely make your sunrise adult sex session more appealing and totally enjoyable.

•  Ditch the PJs

Get to bed in your birthday suit and then strip him naked too. Feel free to fool around but keep it PG-13. Yes, you may give each other a case of blue balls, but think of it as a form of anticipation-building exercise. So when you both wake up the next morning with nothing between your skins and the last waking memory you have was of making out, the first thing you’ll think about is sex.

•  Curtains Down, Lights Low

If it’s dark in your bedroom, you won’t have to worry if your eyed makeup is ruined or that pimple on your chin is noticeable.

•  Focus on Each Other’s Erogenous Zones

To be honest, kissing sans brushing of teeth can be a mood-killer. But it’s totally fine to have sex without kissing, right? So instead of having mouth-to-mouth action, you can focus your lips on the rest of his body to get things started.

•  Do It Doggy, Starfish, or Reverse Cowgirl

To keep bad breath from ruining the mood, do it doggy style, the starfish position or reverse cowgirl.

•  Or Skip Penetration Entirely

Oral sex can be a great option if you’re in a rush since you can skip foreplay. Wake him up and straddle his chest he’ll get the idea. Then, you can reciprocate and blow his, uh, mind

When was the last time you went out adult dating? If you’re having a tough time remembering, you can go over these signs to check if it’s time for you to get back adult dating out there.

•  All of your dating stories date back in high school. (“And this one time when we were making out in my Ford parked at the cliff, a cop pulled up…”)

•  You hook up drunk with someone almost every weekend, but can’t recall your last sober kiss.

•  The most romantic event that ever happened to you this year was when Robin make out with Barney on an episode of “How I Met Your Mother,” which you saw alone in bed.

•  Your Facebook friend from back in high school, about whom you think, “How the hell did he snag a hot girlfriend?!” has split with said hot girlfriend and started dating another hot girlfriend. And now you’re still single and seething.

•  Just the mere thought of going out adult dating stresses you out, because you really have no clue how to act when out on one. (“So how does one set up a date? Where do we meet? What are we supposed to talk about?” JUST GO ON ONE).

•  Your friends, colleagues, or family have all told you they want to set you up with someone, and they’re starting to get relentless. This is a good time to take matters in your own hands.

•  Your friends or neighbors frequently ask you to babysit, water their plants, watch their pets, or have a “casual night in” with them on Saturday nights because they would never think you’d have a date or have some other plans that night.

•  Your last that was terrible. It’s time to replace that awful memory with a good one.

•  You got out of a serious relationship… six months ago. It’s time to go out there and meet another partner.

•  You really, really, really want to be in a relationship this year. If you really want it that bad, you’ve got to do the work. All adult dating relationships start with a date.

Have you ever noticed how an attractive guy will suddenly seem hotter the moment he’s off the market? Take Ryan Reynolds for example: Although he’s already known to be adorable, his solid hunk status didn’t kick in until he hooked up with, and then married, Scarlett Johansson. The same goes for Dax Shepard, whom we didn’t bother to give a second look until he coupled up with Kristen Bell. And come to think of it, Justin Long almost never really registered in our babe-dar pre-Drew Barrymore.

According to a recent study, this phenomenon isn’t just limited to our celebrity crushes. After conducting a survey on single women about the characteristics of their ideal man, Oklahoma State University researchers showed them a photo of a guy that is believed to be their “perfect match,” and asked if they would hook up with him. When we revealed that their perfect match was single, 59 percent of the women said they would hook up with him. When they were told he was already spoken for, a staggering 90 percent said they would. The conclusion: Just knowing the guy is unavailable makes him more appealing. Knowing this freaky piece of information will likely set off major alarms, we decided to dig deeper so we could find out the reason behind this forbidden attraction.

Basic Instinct

For some experts, it makes perfect sense why women automatically find taken men more tempting than single ones. The reason can be traced back during the caveman days, where finding an ideal mate was a matter of life and death. If your man is not capable of protecting you and providing your basic needs, you wouldn’t survive. So when you meet a guy that’s in a successful relationship, the cavewoman part of your brain tells you he must be a good protector and provider, making his desirability shoot through the ceiling. Conversely, guys are different: The study revealed they had no preference for single women. This isn’t really surprising, because guys don’t need to do much instinctual digging to sense that a woman would be a good partner. They just look for physical signs that a woman is fertile, like possessing a nice hip-to-waist ratio, which can be visually examined on the spot.

In addition to women’s primal urges, some are inadvertently drawn to unavailable guys because they see them play a purely romantic role. We can see them hold their partner’s hand, open the door for her, and then women assume he’s Prince Charming. They don’t see the moody, burping, fantasy playing dude she’s really in a relationship with.

Have you ever noticed how an attractive guy will suddenly seem hotter the moment he’s off the market? Take Ryan Reynolds for example: Although he’s already known to be adorable, his solid hunk status didn’t kick in until he hooked up with, and then married, Scarlett Johansson. The same goes for Dax Shepard, whom we didn’t bother to give a second look until he coupled up with Kristen Bell. And come to think of it, Justin Long almost never really registered in our babe-dar pre-Drew Barrymore.

According to a recent study, this phenomenon isn’t just limited to our celebrity crushes. After conducting a survey on single women about the characteristics of their ideal man, Oklahoma State University researchers showed them a photo of a guy that is believed to be their “perfect match,” and asked if they would hook up with him.

When we revealed that their perfect match was single, 59 percent of the women said they would hook up with him. When they were told he was already spoken for, a staggering 90 percent said they would. The conclusion: Just knowing the guy is unavailable makes him more appealing. Knowing this freaky piece of information will likely set off major alarms, we decided to dig deeper so we could find out the reason behind this forbidden attraction.

Basic Instinct

For some experts, it makes perfect sense why women automatically find taken men more tempting than single ones. The reason can be traced back during the caveman days, where finding an ideal mate was a matter of life and death. If your man is not capable of protecting you and providing your basic needs, you wouldn’t survive. So when you meet a guy that’s in a successful relationship, the cavewoman part of your brain tells you he must be a good protector and provider, making his desirability shoot through the ceiling. Conversely, guys are different: The study revealed they had no preference for single women. This isn’t really surprising, because guys don’t need to do much instinctual digging to sense that a woman would be a good partner. They just look for physical signs that a woman is fertile, like possessing a nice hip-to-waist ratio, which can be visually examined on the spot.

In addition to women’s primal urges, some are inadvertently drawn to unavailable guys because they see them play a purely romantic role. We can see them hold their partner’s hand, open the door for her, and then women assume he’s Prince Charming. They don’t see the moody, burping, fantasy playing dude she’s really in a relationship with.