Many of us have decided to cross over to the precarious love gamble of online hookup dating. It looks like a good idea on paper: You go through a short résumé and a few attractive photos of someone, so you know a little about them; then you send a message and eventually hook up. Theoretically, it should be human takeout for dating and sex; in practice, it’s more like buying a ton of Wonka Bars, hoping to find that golden ticket. Fortunately, through the years of my online hookup dating triumphs and disasters, I am here to help you make a good first impression through a few tips to make sure you don’t wipe out on your ice breaker message.
Don’t be too generic
A cut and paste message sent to a hundred people may save you a lot of time, but the only problem in sending a “Hey, you look fun to be with. How’s it going?” to someone is it doesn’t give much of your personality, or make them feel you are genuinely interested.
In answering messages sent to me, I sort out the impersonal ones and those are the first I delete. I figure, if someone has checked out my profile photos and hasn’t expressed interest in my well-written profile, they don’t deserve any of my time.
Therefore, make sure you throw in a few personal details in your ice breaker. Tell them some interesting facts about yourself that are not written in your profile, and reference something from their profile to let them know why you decided to contact them. “Hey Rachel, I read you are a ‘spontaneous wild child’ and that caught my attention, having just returned from a weekend-long party that involved too much booze and a swimming pool. So, when was the last time you danced till sunrise?”
Do not ask for a date right away
A message saying, “You seem cool. Can I buy you a drink sometime?” suggests you took a quick look at their profile, thought they looked cute, and decided to jump right into asking for a date. It kind of shows how low your standards are, yes?
Even if they are genuinely hot, make sure they are even worth a quick look by checking to see if they can give you a witty and worthy response to your messages before you ask them out. You want them to know you have a lot of options and their sheer hotness isn’t enough for you to warrant a date.
TLDR
This is one of the most useful online hookup dating acronyms on the Internet. It stands for “Too long, didn’t read.” While sending a very short message is not good, going for a lengthy essay as an ice breaker also sucks balls. Would you let a stranger in a bar know how you broke up with your girlfriend when you found out she was cheating on you? Precisely. It’s cool to write a short anecdote, but don’t write a message so confusing and verbose that it’s almost impossible to even want to respond. One more thing, don’t take too long before you ask for a date; get to the point. Online hookup dating, just like its traditional counterpart, is asserted on momentum.
If you have already made a fun exchange of messages, be bold enough to ask for their contact number, then give them a call to see if you jive more on having voice conversations than on the Internet. There are people who are a lot more fun and wittier online when they have a lot of time to think about what to write, so look out for the dashing online dater who turns out to be a boring, lifeless wreck.
Don’t be too generic
A cut and paste message sent to a hundred people may save you a lot of time, but the only problem in sending a “Hey, you look fun to be with. How’s it going?” to someone is it doesn’t give much of your personality, or make them feel you are genuinely interested.
In answering messages sent to me, I sort out the impersonal ones and those are the first I delete. I figure, if someone has checked out my profile photos and hasn’t expressed interest in my well-written profile, they don’t deserve any of my time.
Therefore, make sure you throw in a few personal details in your ice breaker. Tell them some interesting facts about yourself that are not written in your profile, and reference something from their profile to let them know why you decided to contact them. “Hey Rachel, I read you are a ‘spontaneous wild child’ and that caught my attention, having just returned from a weekend-long party that involved too much booze and a swimming pool. So, when was the last time you danced till sunrise?”
Do not ask for a date right away
A message saying, “You seem cool. Can I buy you a drink sometime?” suggests you took a quick look at their profile, thought they looked cute, and decided to jump right into asking for a date. It kind of shows how low your standards are, yes?
Even if they are genuinely hot, make sure they are even worth a quick look by checking to see if they can give you a witty and worthy response to your messages before you ask them out. You want them to know you have a lot of options and their sheer hotness isn’t enough for you to warrant a date.
TLDR
This is one of the most useful online hookup dating acronyms on the Internet. It stands for “Too long, didn’t read.” While sending a very short message is not good, going for a lengthy essay as an ice breaker also sucks balls. Would you let a stranger in a bar know how you broke up with your girlfriend when you found out she was cheating on you? Precisely. It’s cool to write a short anecdote, but don’t write a message so confusing and verbose that it’s almost impossible to even want to respond. One more thing, don’t take too long before you ask for a date; get to the point. Online hookup dating, just like its traditional counterpart, is asserted on momentum.
If you have already made a fun exchange of messages, be bold enough to ask for their contact number, then give them a call to see if you jive more on having voice conversations than on the Internet. There are people who are a lot more fun and wittier online when they have a lot of time to think about what to write, so look out for the dashing online dater who turns out to be a boring, lifeless wreck.
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